Ten Traits of GF revisited
10 Traits of a Great Girlfriend
10. she's independent.
no one wants a girlfriend they have to baby-sit. once in a while, like if she had a rough day at work, it's great to be her shoulder to cry on, but if she can't seem to function without you and is constantly after you, she will eventually make you feel like you're suffocating, which is a surefire way to get you running out the nearest exit. on the other hand, if she has her very own personality and opinions, can stand on her own two feet, both financially and emotionally, and is able to enjoy time away from you - while still missing you, of course - then she must be a great girlfriend.
9. she's intelligent.
i hate to be the one to tell you this, but the bimbo routine gets real old, real fast. instead of being the one in total control, you'll find yourself tryinig to figure out what she's really thinking behind those glazed eyes of hers - or if she's actually thinking at all. an intelligent woman will constantly surprise you and keep you on your toes. she won't let you get bored of her. besides, it's nice to have something to talk about between all the chandelier-hanging sex.
8. she's sexual.
while we're on the topic, a great girlfriend has to be sexually compatible with you. for instance, if you're into S&M and she's more the "fluffy lingerie" type, that's a problem. the two of you have to be on the same page - or, at least, she has to be willing to wear leather and use a whip from time to time. of course, this doesn't imply that she has to know all the right moves right away; it simply means that you and she have an undeniable attraction towards each other, and are able to communicate your desires verbally (or with physical cues). it is important that you please each other in the bedroom, or on top of the dryer - whatever the case may be.
7. she's beautiful.
i know, this one is kind of obvious, but important nonetheless. a great girlfriend will not only want to look good for you, but also for herself. she should always look her best and be well put together - matching lingerie is a definite plus. you have to be proud to have her on your arm and enjoy the sight of her in any light. and this doesn't mean that she has to be a heidi klum clone. remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so if you think her full bottom or uncontrollable curls are beautiful, you're allowed.
6. she respects you.
this is a biggie. your woman must respect you. this means that she listens to you, even if she doesn't necessarily agree with what you're saying. and, of course, she never tries to demean or belittle you in any way, shape or form. a great girlfriend won't ever cause scenes in public or in front of your friends and family, and will always wait to discuss matters with you in private. if she respects you, chances are that she will behave in a tactful and diplomatic manner in most situations, which is definitely a good thing.
5. she lets you be a man.
do not - i repeat - do not get involved with a woman who tries to get you to eat cottage chceese and fruit for breakfast and insists that you give up poker night with the guys. you will end up resenting her more than you can imagine. a good girlfriend lets you be a guy in all your glory, poker night and all. if she's a great girlfriend, she'll even bring you and your buddies a couple of beers and make you some of her famous sandwiches. she has to understand that men and women are different and should allow you to be yourself. just like you wouldn't deprive her of going shopping with her best girlfriend, she shouldn't expect you to give up the guys for her.
4. she's nagless.
there's nothing worse than a nag! a great girlfriend knows this and chooses her battles wisely. she knows when to speak up and when to let it slide. you don't want a girlfriend who will give you hell for leaving a couple of dishes in the sink occasionally. however, if you live together and you stay out all night without calling her, and she lets you have it, then you're setting yourself up for disaster. this is a situation that nobody would let slide - not even a great girlfriend.
3. she gets along with friends and family.
a great girlfriend will not only help your mom out in the kitchen, listen to your dad's stories and hang out with your friends, but she will enjoy it. she'll make a real effort to get to know and love the most important people in your life. and she won't try to get you to ditch your best buds. she'll actually empathize with your brother's getting dumped and suggest that you guys take him out to cheer him up. not only that, but your friends won't roll their eyes and moan when you mention that she'll be joining you guys when she gets off work (yes, women like this do exist).
2. she loves you.
if you have found a woman who loves you for who you really are and not who you pretend or try to be sometimes, you should definitely hang on to her. a woman who doesn't try to change you is hard to find. of course, all women have their slightly annoying habits that their mate has to contend with, but if she really loves you, she will be able to cope with these. another way to know if she really loves you is by observing the way she looks at you and treats you on an everyday basis. if the sight of you doesn't seem to faze her either way, and she doesn't really seem to care about what you have to say, she's either playing very hard to get, or sees you as just some guy. but if a surprise visit or phone call from you makes her light up, there's no denying that she loves you.
1. she makes you want to be a better man.
stop making that face... any man who has a great girlfriend or wife will tell you that she makes him want to be a better man. she doesn't have to say or do anything; it just is that way. if you suddenly feel bad about how you treated your sister or find yourself trying to get your finances in order, you might want to think about your motivation for doing so. it could be love.
10 Traits of a Great BF revisited
10 Traits Of A Great Boyfriend
A successful romance can be quite formulaic, for there are certain elements of dating that guys should never overlook. And with all the women out there who complain that their boyfriends are not satisfying them one way or another, one has to wonder: Do guys really know how to be good boyfriends or is it just impossible to satisfy women? With that, here are 10 positive traits of attached men. And if you possess just about all of the following, then perhaps the problems in the relationship don't lie with you.
Number 10: You listen When words come out of her mouth, do you actually pay attention to what is being said, or does your brain just process mumbling sounds while you stare at her chest? A good boyfriend is an active listener, meaning he asks questions and doesn't just sit there, waiting for his turn to speak. Showing her that you have a genuine interest in what she has to say means, among other things, that you respect her opinions and find her interesting; two things that will meet any woman's criteria.
Number 9: You're spontaneous A great relationship is one that never feels stale. So to avoid having your flames of desire burn out, you have to be unpredictable and mysterious in order to keep her guessing (and on her toes). Whether you whisk her away to a Mexican resort at the last minute or show up, for no apparent reason, with Chinese takeout, wine and a pair of handcuffs, spontaneity can add some real excitement to the romance, and intrigue her all the more. Women love to be swept away in as many different ways as possible; it's up to you to come up with as many ideas as you can.
Number 8: You satisfy her bedroom desires Saying that sex is important would be a gross understatement. A good boyfriend must satisfy his woman's every romantic need (and yes, she should reciprocate). There's a difference between making love just for the sake of it, and being passionate about it. That means never skipping foreplay, sending her soothing messages during the act (Note: it's okay to ask her, point-blank, what she likes), and not falling asleep the minute you're done.
Number 7: You're not whipped She may feel more empowered by it in the beginning, but in the long run, no woman wants a passive, submissive man who completely compromises his personality to make her happy. Retain your personality, stand by your opinions, and don't give in too easily. Show her that you are strong, confident, and have a spine.
Number 6: You notice the small stuff Did she suddenly get highlights in her hair, shed a few pounds, or buy a new dress? These are all things you need to take note of; most women instinctively flock to guys with keen eyes. It shows that you are attentive and don't skim over life's more subtle details.
Number 5: You give her space Trust is the foundation of any good relationship. Part of that entails giving her the freedom to have a life separate from yours without asking 20 questions or having jealous fits, and knowing that she's not taking your trust for granted. Keep things in perspective; would you like a girlfriend who kept tabs on every move you made? Probably not, and the same goes for her. And always look for a silver lining; in this case, you'll have time to hang out with your buddies, and have something to talk to her about the next time you see her.
Number 4: You respect her (and her family) It's important to avoid letting your ego get the best of you, so if your mentality is stuck in the '50s, you must adjust to changing times. You have to understand that she's an equal part of the relationship, so appreciate her company. Likewise, try to embrace her family early on. In addition to scoring precious points, being kind and courteous toward her parents is a good way to show that you're serious about the relationship. This includes, but is not limited to, bringing the parents thoughtful little gifts every so often, and planning activities that include her whole family, like a picnic. Of course, I'm assuming that you've already survived that dreadful first meeting.
Number 3: You better yourself Demonstrating what a positive effect your woman has had on you is a fantastic way of gaining leverage. Whether you're getting yourself back into shape, improving your vocabulary, or forgetting about the television long enough to take dance lessons with her, it doesn't matter. Improving yourself is a great way of letting her know she deserves the best, and she'll be flattered that she was the inspiration behind your desire to aim higher.
Number 2: You challenge her to be better Likewise, your role in her life should be just as beneficial. You should inspire her to make changes that reflect the positive effect you've had on her. If, for example, you see her letting a great talent go to waste, encourage her; maybe that's all she needs. Don't be afraid to sign her up for an art class, or push her to pursue a career you know she'd be good at. The fact that you care that much about her well-being will make her want to keep you around longer.
Number 1: You make her feel beautiful Reminding her how beautiful she is comes with making her feel good, and makes you a poster boyfriend. Best of all: simplicity and honesty are all you need. Buy her, say, a card that expresses your appreciation, compliment her at odd times, and if you feel that she's the most gorgeous creature you've ever laid eyes on, be sure to let her know. Women want to look good for their men, and proving to her that you only have eyes for her will be a validation of that.
But Cath says: Why bother too much? Just do your best, be sincere in relationship, some of the traits here are too perfect, and no one is perfect in this world, for me, Mei, I simply don't expect too much, but it doesn't mean I should not strive for the best for him to love me, some of the traits here are worth cultivating. It's true that love can fade off if not nurtured, and therefore, reasonable endeavors are always propitious and encouraged. I love being who I am and I will love a man for wanting me for who I am, no matter how simple I am. Love, relationship, it's all about mutualism, no pain no gain value is attached there too. :P Love ain't an obsession, there's a clear line there for me. Thanks for this lovely sharing...
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